Well said by someone: “Talking is sharing and listening is caring”.
Listening communicates importance and respect. When you attend to another person, you are listening to him/her. There are no distractions. No mind wandering. He/She is getting your full attention because he is important to you.
It is sad to say that poor listening is extremely common. According to a study thousands of workers were asked to identify the most serious fault observed in executives. 68% responded and said it was the boss’ failure to listen.
The same applies in personal relationships. Observe a dating couple; they have excellent listening skills. Both cared for each other. The same couple after five years into their marriage may show little about their previous caring attitude. One person might be reading newspaper or watching TV while the other one is speaking.
Have you ever wondered about the reason behind poor listening skills? One of the reasons for poor listening is our negative attitude towards it.
I think one of the reasons for poor listening is our negative attitude towards it.
Generally we see listening as a weak and submissive behavior while talking as an act of power. Actually true power lies in listening.
When you really listen to someone, he often feels quite good about you. And when it’s your turn to speak, he’s more likely to listen to what you have to say.
As communication is key to healthy relationship Resocouple has launched a website mycoupletype.com which is an informational website offering coaching tools for a better relationship. It is dedicated to improve emotional intelligence of your relationship.